“JUST WHEN I THOUGHT!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

………………Just when I thought I had put EVERY single Christmas decoration stored away……one more shows up!!!!!……..I can’t tell you how many times I have passed this pie shape tilt top table going from the living room to the gathering room!….Sitting on top of the table is a large antique English tea cup FILLED with LARGE candy canes!……How could I have not seen it….I guess either I just wasn’t looking or it just didn’t register…..it happens!……I have removed all of the assorted candy canes, and put them in the freezer for my display next Christmas! They are already from the year before, and since I have no intention of eating them or letting anyone else eat them….why buy new ones when these are still perfectly good?!…..I think I am done now with Christmas!!!…..until I happen upon something else I haven’t “seen”!……LOL

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“IMMIGRANTS”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

…………….It is well established that this country was created by IMMIGRANTS….from the first Pilgrims who landed on Plymouth Rock escaping religious persecution seeking FREEDOM…It has also been said that Vikings were here even before them…..Of course we all also know that when these Pilgrims arrived there were many tribes of AMEREICAN INDIANS, but somehow it has become convenient to discount these people who had been here for centuries before the “white man” invaded, and literally stole their lands……..The……..”IMMIGRANTS”……..in this photo just so happen to be my GRANDFATHER,  MAURO DELL’OLIO, and MY FATHER……VINCENZO DELL’OLIO…….My grandfather brought his oldest son, my dad, to this country in the early 20s through Ellis Island as so many thousands of other immigrants did who entered this country from many different countries……My grandfather was a fisherman in Bari, Italy, but when he came to this country he couldn’t find work as a fisherman so he built a wooden cart with wooden wheels, and pushed it around the city collecting paper, bundling it up and reselling it….My father would be tagging along with him as my grandfather had no one to leave him with…..Where my grandfather got the idea of collecting used paper I don’t know…..probably from some other Italian immigrants he saw doing it. My grandfather and father shared an apt with other Italian men in “Little Italy”, an area in the south part of NYC where many Italian immigrants congregated…..Today, it is in the SOHO area, but there is very little left of the original Little Italy…..just a few restaurants…….Eventually, my grandfather worked his way from literally nothing, to create a business successful enough to bring his wife and the rest of his family, four daughters, to this country….Two more children would be born in the US….My father was eventually to take the business over and grow it even larger…My oldest brother, Mauro joined my father in the “family” business and grew it even larger…..My grandfather, and father and the rest of the family did not speak English when they arrived, and my grandfather and grandmother never did learn the language, but somehow they survived because their “tribe” stayed together, and supported one another….My grandfather eventually sent my dad, and the rest of his children to a Catholic school where they leaned to speak English and eventually they all became American citizens…..At this Catholic school my father became an alter boy!!!!…Knowing my dad this is hard for me to imagine!…..My grandfather, who played the guitar, gave my father money for violin lessens…. My dad told me, as a teenager, he used this money to shoot craps with other priests behind the church!!!….He never learned to play the violin very well, but he did grow up loving music!……My grandfather became successful enough to buy a four family house in Brooklyn, which then was considered the “country”….He had quite a bit of land, and had fruit trees and grape vines from which he made wine……From the old photos I have many of the main roads, and boulevards were still dirt!…….I lived in this house until I was three years old when my mother and father and two older brothers moved to Long Island in 1951…A house boom was going on after WW11…. In our area there were still many farms. It was a wonderfully innocent place and time growing up there….so very different from today…….Soon the farmers sold their land, and new homes were built….My grandfather’s house is still there today!…My mother’s story was very similar. Her father and my Dad’s father were friends in Italy, and came from the same village. My two grandfathers traveled together with their oldest sons on the same boat from Italy, and went through Ellis Island together. so my parents knew each other as children………The point of this story is…..All of these thousands of immigrants who came to this country were ALL LOOKED DOWN UPON!!!! They were all ridiculed, called horrible names, and would be treated badly by the so called “Americans” who’s families also came to this country decades before….as immigrants too……Because of the way  immigrants were treated my parents never taught us how to speak Italian. They were fearful that we would have an ACCENT, and would also be treated badly……I didn’t know this until years later when I asked my mother why they never taught us their language?….It would have come in very useful in my career with all the traveling for business I did to Italy!……It was these men and women…..these thousands of immigrants who BUILT THIS COUNTRY…………One could only wonder if they were to come to this country today would they have been let in or turned away?……..IMMIGRANTS are the people who built this nation, and continue to do so……What is happening to the INNOCENT immigrants today is deplorable!

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“LOU & MARIA”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

………………Lou and Maria are two of my DEAREST friends!……Lou takes care of me….literally……When ever I need anything done Lou is there…..If I need something fixed in the house…Lou is there….if I need  a ride someplace…Lou takes me….Right now he’s refinishing my floors of my entry hall way……..I would be at a loss without Lou in my life…..We have been friends for over 25 years! He calls me “Uncle Lou”….His dad and I are the same age, and I am very close to his mom, Claire, who I know for even longer then Lou….At the diner we go to almost every Sunday morning…we’re known as “The Lou’s”……..I have known Maria ever since she and Lou married many years ago, and we have spent many lovely times together…..She is one of the sweetest, kindest people I know, and I adore her!…Maria was born in Columbia and immigrated to the US many many years ago. She proudly became an American citizen way before I knew her….The other day she called my home looking for Lou, and I told her he hadn’t arrived yet. I could tell by her voice she was very upset…..so I asked her if anything was wrong?….She replied, “oh Lou, something terrible has just happened to me, and I wanted to come over and tell my husband, but I’m too upset to drive.” I asked again what happened???…..She told me she was in a local gift and home goods store buying some presents for friends…..The store was quite empty and there was one woman in front of her , and one woman behind her on the check out line…..All of a sudden, for no reason, the WHITE woman in front of her turned to Maria, and started YELLING at her!!!!…..”TRUMP IS GOING TO GET RID OF ALL PEOPLE LIKE YOU! He’s going to throw all of you Puerto Ricans out of this country! He’s going to get rid of all of you MISERABLE IMMIGRANTS!!!”…..Maria was shocked, and wasn’t even sure the woman was yelling at her, but there was no one else there except for another “white” woman standing behind her!…..The woman continued yelling at Maria telling her to speak English and not Spanish!……Maria hadn’t said a word, and said to the woman “what are you talking about, I wasn’t even speaking, and do you speak Spanish?”….the woman said yes she did speak and understand Spanish, and Maria asked her to say something in Spanish which she couldn’t. Maria told her she wasn’t an IMMIGRANT, she was a citizen of the United States, and she wasn’t Puerto Rican, and told the woman that Puerto Rico happens to be part of the United States!….and that she was terribly ignorant….The woman just kept yelling that Trump was going to GET RID of all people like YOU!!!! It got to the point that the cashier told this racist white woman she was going to call the manager! The woman quickly paid, and went about her business. She left leaving Maria shaken and frightened to the core! Maria isn’t from Puerto Rico, and was shocked the woman just assumed she was because she is was obviously a Latin woman…and really what did it matter where she was from???!!!…..The white woman behind Maria started to apologize to Maria, and Maria told her there was no reason for her to apologize to her for the other woman’s horrific behavior!…….Maria rightly said……”I guess this is what I will expect now from racists!….now that Trump has released all of the people who stormed the capital on Jan 6th…..These racists feel emboldened to say whatever they want and get away with it”. Maria told her this would have never happened if Trump wasn’t president….”He’s opened the flood gates, and has given these types of people permission to say and do whatever they like without any consequences!”…The store manager took Maria to a back room and questioned her, which Maria didn’t like…..all the while this offender was walking around the store!….Maria was so shaken when she called me to see if Lou was here at my house doing some work for me, and she said to me….”I guess this will be the new normal!….what can anyone expect when “HE” released all of those convicted seditionists from prison!”…….I guess Maria is right……What can anyone expect when the leader of out great country has freed all of these law breakers….people who have confessed to committing these crimes against our country and who attacked and killed police officers defending our nation…….What can one expect from someone who is a felon himself……What is this country becoming!!!!….Before I sat to write this I asked Maria’s permission…..After all it is not my story to tell….it’s MARIA’S STORY!……She said yes….She feels people should know what happened to her…..She fears for herself and her two daughters….She wants people to know that there are crazy, racist people out there that feel embolden to say and do whatever they want to total strangers……TO SPEW THEIR HATRED!…….I am a firm believer that what “GOES AROUND COMES AROUND”……and that this disgusting woman will eventually be devoured by her own hatred…….There is a saying….”THE SHADOW OF THE LEADER”, and Trump is casting a very wide….very BLACK SHADOW across this country causing more division, more chaos, and more HATRED then this country has ever scene before……Feel free to share Maria’s story….I know she would want you to.

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“REMEMBERING MY NEPHEW JOHN”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

…………………..On this day…..January 24th….33 years ago…..at approximately 3:30pm…..my nephew John was tragically killed in a horrific accident on the Throgs Neck Bridge in NY……………………He was 21 years old………………..It is hard to believe he would have been 54 years old!…..I can’t help but wonder what his life would have been like????!!!!…Would he have married, and had beautiful children of his own?….All of these questions that will never have answers…He was truly a GOLDEN BOY……..beautiful from the day he was born….until the day he was taken from us……He never went through an awkward stage….he was always beautiful….He wasn’t only beautiful on the outside….he was a sweet caring young man…..He became a volunteer fireman from the minute he was able to join….He played the guitar, self taught, and was a boy of many interests….He lived with his parents….my oldest brother Mauro, his mom Kathy, and his three younger siblings….Christopher, Jeannine, and Mathew…..He  was exactly like my brother in every way, and emulated him in every possible way…..”a chip off of the old block”….They even looked alike….Many of these traits, and habits my brother only discovered after he passed……I remember my brother showing me John’s closet, and discovering how he set it up exactly the way my brother had his…..It touched my brother so much to know how he had quietly influenced his son…….Both were “A” type personalities, and incredibly smart!….He worked with my brother and was destined to take over the family business…..He was starting a recycling division of the company when he passed…..My brother never continued it……..John would come up to my office at Anne Klein with his cousin Mauro [a family name] for a surprise visit……I’d get a call saying my nephew John, and another young man were at the reception desk. I told them to let them in…….,Did he come to visit his Uncle Lou????……NO…..They came to see the MODELS! He loved Cindy Crawford, and thought she just might be “hanging out!”…..He was very disappointed to learn the models only came for special photo shoots or when I was having a show…to which he always came!……His blue eyes were so sad!…..It was so cute to see these very young boys having these teenage crushes on these “super models”!…….The photo of him sitting in the beach chair at the upper right was the last photo taken of him the summer before he died…….There simply are no words, and time has HEALED NOTHING…….Not a day goes by that my brother, and I know my SIL don’t think about their first born…..their oldest son…..I can’t imagine what it is like to loose a child…..especially one that was so adored….especially so suddenly, so unexpectedly….so shockingly!…..I only wish I had more time with my beautiful nephew so we could have shared more experiences and created a million more memories together!……His passing effected the entire family deeply, in ways we will never know about……His is brothers and sister often speak of John………..Chris, second oldest…..once said to me…………..”Uncle Lou….I don’t want to be the oldest now”……………I knew what he meant…..he didn’t want to take his brother’s place…………It’s just so incredibly heartbreaking…..I know that John is with Jac and his grandparents, and they are constantly watching over all of us……He will be FOREVER YOUNG…..and FOREVER IN OUR HEART.

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“BEFORE…..&……AFTER”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

………………..CHRISTMAS IS OFFICIALLY OVER!…..THE BEFORE & AFTER……..The tree is the very last thing I take down after all of the decorations in all of my other rooms have been stored away. It took me three days….no rush….to take all of the candles, icicles, and ornaments off the tree and carefully pack them away…..Unfortunately, one did break, but thank goodness it wasn’t one of my favorites! I always expect one or two to have mishaps and if they aren’t shattered, and can still be hung on the tree next year….they too get carefully put away. There are quite a few of these “casualties”….that I hang in the back of the tree facing the windows…..where only I and the deer can see them…I just can’t throw them away just because they are a little “damaged”…They are all part of my “family”…..It also gives me a good excuse to add a new one or two or three if I find something really special…….Now the tree will be rolled out onto the sunporch where it will stay until next November when it gets rolled back into the “Gathering Room”…….It’s nice to have an evergreen tree on my sunporch all spring, summer and fall [I don’t cover it]……a reminder of Christmas to come!

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