“THE RUTIGLIANO FAMILY”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

……………..My mother comes from a family of NINE brothers and sisters. They are all present in this picture….except one……my Uncle Tom……From left to right……My Aunt Angie…….my Aunt Millie…..My mother who was named Lorita, but everyone called her Edith…..my Grandfather John Rutigliano,….my Uncle Paul…..my Grandmother …..my Uncle Vito….my Aunt Mary,….my Uncle Lou……and the baby, and tallest of them all……my Uncle Danny…….They all had two to three children except my Uncle Danny who married an older woman, and they didn’t have any children……..I’m guessing after being brought up in a house with so many they all decided to keep the amount of children they would have to a minimum! Only my Uncle Vito beat his dad, and had 12 children! I remember as a child all of us getting together in the basement of my either my dad’s parents house or my mother’s parents house in Brooklyn for the Holidays…..All the women cooking, and all the men playing cards…..and all the kids running wild! Sometimes we would split the time between both families. My grandparent lived around the corner from one another so it was easy to spend time with both families…..Some times just the kids would go from house to house visiting with our cousins!….It was the best of times…..When my grandparents died that all ended……The get togethers were much smaller, and basically everyone stayed home with their families. My mother used to invite some of her siblings over, but it was never the same…….When my brothers and I got older we rarely went into Brooklyn anymore……..It was sad to loose touch. Their children would never have the experiences we did growing up……Times have changed so drastically, and family ties aren’t what they used to be……though some still try to keep some of the traditions going.

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“LET EM EAT WINGS!”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

……………..I don’t eat wings…..I don’t even like finger food!…….My Super Bowl dinner………ITALIAN HOT SAUSAGE & PEPPERS with ROASTED POTATOES!……..YES!

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“MY UNCLE PAUL”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

……………………..My Uncle Paul was my mother’s oldest brother. Her sister Mary was the first born and then Paul was second……I LOVE the photo to the far left. That’s my Uncle Paul with his baby brother, the youngest in the family…..my Uncle Danny. They look like father and son instead of brothers My uncle was very handsome, and had wonderful style…..My Uncle Danny looked like he could have been a child actor….one of the “East Side Kids”…..He definitely has that Jackie Coogan look……The picture next to that at the top shows my Uncle Paul in the center of a group of people none of which I know…..The picture below features my Uncle in Knickers and a Fair Isle sweater, and a dress shirt…..Very brave!…..The top picture, second in from the right, shows my Uncle Paul, my grandmother in the white apron, and next to her  my Aunt Mary, her oldest child. Kneeling in front is my Aunt Millie. I don’t know who the baby is….It could be one of my Aunt Mary’s children…….Below, on the front stoop, is my Uncle Paul and his wife in the center in the white dress. my Aunt Marie….I don’t know who the other people are……My Uncle is sitting on the grass with his wife, or maybe girlfriend at the time, Marie……That’s also my Uncle sitting by himself on the roof…..another of my favorite pictures!……My Uncle Paul was the first to recognize my talent at a young age, maybe 10 ,11 or 12….when my mom brought him sketches I had done. He was a mediator in the NYC Ladies Garment Union, and knew every single designer in the city. They all respected him because he was always fair, and the fact that he was very elegant and handsome didn’t hurt. I remember he had an incredible low voice, that just drew you in. He got me my very first job as a summer intern at Norman Norell, who was considered the king of NY fashion…..I had no idea who he was as a young 18 year old, graduating high school from Long Island…….In my second year at Parsons I won a full scholarship given by Mr. Norell…..The wheel is round! I will always be grateful to my uncle for starting me on my path, and opening my eyes to the wonder of the fashion world!

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” THE RUTIGLIANO BROTHERS & SISTERS”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I Love going through old photos my mother saved……..This one has special meaning as it is a picture of my Mom and Dad and my Mom’s brothers and sister…..The picture was taken at the STATLER HOTEL in Nov. of 1950…..I was two years old……From left to right…..My Aunt Marie and my mother’s brother Tom who was a real scoundrel! He was very handsome in his youth as all of my mother’s brothers were…….He had blue eyes and light wavy hair. My mother adored him, and they would enter many dance contests that were popular at the time. My mom was in her early 20s and my uncle was a little older. My mom told me he was a terrific dancer. They won many contests together. He would give my mother the trophy and he KEPT the money!!!!….As I said a loveable scoundrel……He’s sitting next to my Aunt Marie who I always thought was so beautiful. She always reminded me of Maria Montez, the actress. I always called her Aunt Marie, but it was many years later when I was an adult that my mother told me the true story. They were never married! They just lived together. He was already married to a woman named Yolanda. They never divorced, because she refused to give him one…..I think out of spite. She moved to California and took their only son John. Who I met many many years later……My Uncle Tom suddenly died from a heart attack I think in his early 50s, and my Aunt Marie eventually disappeared from the family…..It was very sad…..Times had changed and it wasn’t such a scandal anymore……Next to them is my Aunt Tessie, and my Uncle Vito, my mother’s brother…..Talk about a RAKE…..he was very charming, and movie star handsome. Honestly, she was the sweetest woman, but I never understood them as a couple. Though it was never ever said, I always suspected when I was older that they had to get married…..She had 20, I repeat 20 PREGENCIES……14 of them were full term. Two died from accidents as infants…..so it was a family of 12. When my parents bought their new home on Long Island when it was still in development. My Uncle Vito bought the house directly in back of us and had an extra bedroom added. There was still three kids to a room. Eventually some went to college and moved on. I was very close to the three youngest girls who were still older than me……Angela, Emelia and Florence. I remember going over to their house to SMOKE! My Aunt smoked like a chimney! They were a terrific loving close family, and the Holidays at their house was wild! Most of them are gone now, but Angela, Emilia, Florence and the oldest living daughter, Rita are still with us. My cousin Sal, who was the spitting image of my Uncle Vito, and a rake like his dad, just died this year of cancer. He was the last of the boys….He was divorced and has four grown children 3 boys and a girl……Next is my Aunt Millie and my Uncle Joe Dell’Olio. My Uncle Joe and my father were cousins hence the same last name. Out of all of my Moms siblings she was closest to my Aunt Millie…..We spent a lot of time together and offend vacation together. They had two children My cousin Mauro [same name as my brother], and his older sister Josephine……My Aunt was a flaming RED HEAD, and had dyed red hair until she died over 100 years old. She and her son, a Vietnam vet, use dot take the bus to Atlantic city to go gambling. The casinos new her so well she used to get things. like her room, for free! There was a falling out between the families that I never understood, and they never spoke again…..I loved them all very much, and this rift made me very sad. My Uncle Joe died early on, so my Aunt Millie was a widow for many many years. They lived in the same house in Brooklyn as long as I can remember. I think my cousin Mauro still lives there. I really would like him to know I love him……..Next to them is my Aunt Marie and my Uncle Paul…..He was an extraordinary, very handsome man, again with blue eyes. In his youth he had a full head of incredible wavy hair, but I only new him as being bald. They had two very good looking sons…..John and Louis…..They both married and moved far from their parents. From what I recall it wasn’t a happy marriage, and i always suspected he had girlfriends on the side, though no one ever told me he did. It was just a feeling I had……He was an officer in the Ladies Garment Union, and whenever there was a problem he was called in to mediate. My mother had shown him my early sketches [maybe 10 or 11 years old], and he told her I was very talented. He got me my very first job as an intern for Norman Norell during the summer after I graduated high school in 1966! I knew NOTHING about the fashion business or the designers. I just remember the house of Norell. I remember how it was decorated, the smell of the place, the models. the assistants, the clients….EVERYTHING! I remember the Metropolitan Opera House across the street, made famous again in the series “The Gilded Age”. It was torn down that fall. I remember one evening I was at work late waiting to deliver one of Mr. Norell’s famous sequined dresses to a client [I think to Lynn Revson]. I was looking out of the show room windows at the limos pulling up in front of the opera house. I later found out there was a benefit to make money for the new opera house at Lincoln Center. I was watching history being made and didn’t  know it!…….Next….is my mother and father……They were both wonderful dressers and had beautiful clothes. My father was always a peacock! and my mother had exquisite taste. I guess I inherited it from them!……….My mother also had two other sisters. Marie the oldest, and Angie, the second to the youngest….and two other brothers….Louis and Danny who was the baby. My Uncle Danny had a hush hush job at NASA, and never spoke of his work…..all very mysterious…….They are all gone now with only the memories I have of them, and the many photos my mother saved………They were a beautiful family!

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